Monday, April 27, 2009

Counter-culture Parenting

I love it that my kids' friends think they were deprived because they never watched Rug Rats. Do you know why they never watched it? Because we thought the cartoons were poorly drawn and the children on it were total jerks.  Who wants their kid modelling after that?

Then people think we're weird because we don't have TV coming into the house.  Sure, we have the actual appliance and we watch movies on it, but no, we don't get any of the prime time, cable or PBS shows. One lady at the gym told me they were missing some really good education on the History channel.  I told her they do something really radical -- they read books to learn about history.  More than one about whatever subject interests them.  It helps them fill in the details that can't be jammed into a 45 minute show. This photo is our daughter doing what she does best -- on a beautiful day outside, she's nose down reading.

We didn't set out to be counter-culture.  We just don't like the "values" promoted in the culture. We've watched what used to be 'way out there' become normal, so what is way out there now is TRULY obscene. Lying is the norm, truth in advertising is an oxymoron. Our non-Christian friends and family don't get it.

But some of our Christian friends worry that we're too permissive because we allow our children to go to public school and we allow them on Facebook and to play on the Wii. We allow them to play with Airsoft Guns and dream about serving their country in the military.  In public school they now choose daily whether to live their faith instead of having it 'thrust upon them.' So far, they're both standing firm (but we do welcome prayers for them!).

We are far from perfect parents, but with God's help, our parenting works for us and for our kids. They are joyful, funny kids. They like to be with us, but with their friends. They're secure enough to interact with the culture and confident enough to be goofy on camera (witness the picture above). If you've met our kids, and think they're obnoxious, let us know!


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